Writing about abuse and how my mom overcame childhood abuse has taken years to convey all the emotions on the pages for my upcoming book, Donna Jean. The physical and mental anguish, setbacks and victories are all pulling together to help readers better understand what a young person might endure daily in this world.

As writers, we know the struggle can be most difficult to truly express in words what a child endures, especially if we were not raised in an abusive household.

As we listen to someone tell their personal story of abuse, their feelings of defeat, depression and anger begin to be heard in their voice. To witness the anguish in their eyes, the tears and the sound of them crying, feelings of helplessness grow inside us. They lash out or abruptly shut down the conversation for the day. We wish we could have been there to protect. All of this is what, we as writers, want the reader to better understand and feel as they turn the pages of our books. We have to take each person through the mental pain, all the moments of fear and anguish. Our readers will see a glimpse of the victims suffering.

Can we do more than comfort? Yes! We can listen.

An Abusive Childhood: Healing Through Writing And Storytelling

Before becoming a teenager I had noticed my mom struggling with her emotions and having a hard time sleeping. When I asked her if she was doing okay, she began sharing bits and pieces of her life as a child. As a child myself, her stories broke my heart and I vowed to listen to her stories and offer love and support.

At first I just listened, cried and prayed for her. Then I asked her, “Does talking about your trauma help you feel better?” Many years later, “Would you like for me to write your story?” And Mom bloomed and her story has grown into an amazing testimony of strength forgiveness and love!

• Just listen as they share their story.
• Ask if you can give them a hug.
• Would this precious person like for you to hold their hand and pray with them?
• Do they want to share their story with others or keep this personal?
• Understand that there might be days they just do not want to talk.
• Ask if they want to continue talking daily, weekly or monthly?
• Schedule times to meet and take this time serious!
• Do your homework. Research when and where they grew up. Write out questions to ask during their sharing time.
• Be thoughtful to their emotions.
• Don’t rush the conversations. Let them begin to heal as they tell their story.

Break the Cycle of Childhood Abuse: A Healing Journey

Being raised in fear and daily abuse, my mom wanted to raise her children in love, comfort and security. She wants her story, Donna Jean, told to help encourage anyone enduring or coming through abuse of any kind, to share your personal story. Begin a healing journey for you and family.

Do not stop there! Break the cycle of childhood abuse. Breaking the cycle of childhood abuse begins with you! Make a promise to raise your family with deep love, praise and affection. Bring your children to a bible believing church, always stay in prayer and keep them close in your heart.

We are proud of you! And, As Always, Happy Writing And Reading!